When a loved one is living with dementia, even the simplest daily routines can start to feel frustrating for both of you. Getting dressed, brushing teeth, or making a sandwich may take longer than it used to. It’s not that they don’t want to do it. It’s just that the steps don’t come as easily anymore.
Helping someone stay independent, while still being there when they need you, takes a little patience and a few smart adjustments. Here are ways to make daily tasks feel less overwhelming for someone with memory loss.
Break Tasks into Small Steps
A full routine can be confusing. But if you break it down step by step, it can be more manageable. Instead of saying, “Get ready for bed,” you might say, “Let’s go to the bathroom,” followed by, “Here’s your toothbrush.” Giving one direction at a time helps keep things clear.
You don’t need to rush through anything. A slower pace gives your loved one time to process what’s being said and feel more in control of what’s happening.
Stick to a Simple Routine
Routines bring comfort. When someone with dementia knows what to expect, it reduces stress. Try to keep daily activities in the same order—waking up, eating meals, bathing, relaxing, and going to bed.
If lunch always happens at noon, try to keep that time steady. Changes in schedule can be confusing, even if they seem small. The more predictable the day feels, the more relaxed everyone will be.
Use Visual Cues
Words don’t always make sense the way they used to. Showing instead of telling can help. For example, if it’s time to get dressed, you might lay out clothes on the bed in the order they go on. You can point or gently guide them to the first piece. The same goes for brushing teeth—hand them the brush with toothpaste already on it.
Too many options can be overwhelming. Instead of asking, “What would you like to wear today?” try holding up two shirts and asking, “Would you like this one or that one?”
Make the Environment Work With You
Little changes around the house can make everyday tasks easier.
- Label drawers or cabinets with simple words or pictures.
- Remove clutter that can cause distractions or confusion.
- Keep things in the same place so they’re easy to find.
- Use nightlights to guide the way to the bathroom at night.
Also, avoid mirrors if they seem to cause distress. Some people with dementia don’t recognize their own reflection and may think a stranger is in the room.
Offer Gentle Help Without Taking Over
It’s tempting to just do things for them, especially if they’re moving slowly or having trouble. But jumping in too fast can take away their sense of independence.
Instead, guide their hand, use short prompts, or demonstrate the action. If they need help buttoning a shirt, let them try first. If they can’t finish, you can step in with kindness and calm.
Stay Calm and Keep Things Light
There will be tough moments. Something that went fine yesterday may be difficult today. And that’s okay. Your tone matters. If you stay calm, speak slowly, and keep your words simple, it helps your loved one feel safe. A smile or a light tone can make a hard moment feel less heavy.
Daily tasks may not look the same as they once did, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be meaningful. With a little support, your loved one can keep doing the things that bring comfort and routine to their day. If you’re feeling unsure about how to help, our team at Friends for Life is here to help. Schedule your consultation today to learn how our in-home care services support families facing dementia.